Not long ago I sent a congratulatory email to a friend who had just been elected to a new position in her national association.
She sent back a note thanking me for my email, and revealing that she was a bit disappointed that few of her professional colleagues had acknowledged her national appointment.
I imagine that many of them had seen the announcement and thought, ‘Wonderful – good for her!’ but just hadn’t taken the time to pick up the phone or drop a note. Doing that is probably still on their “to do list” somewhere. Everyone is pressed for time, and It’s easy to forget how important those little acknowledgments can be.
A small number probably had less charitable thoughts, because some people simply can’t be happy about anyone else’s success. My philosophy about that is to accept that there are a (very) few people who simply don’t have it in them to be happy for you, and move on.
Quint Studer poses this question in a recent blog post – How healthy is your organization? His criteria for judging that is revealing:
A healthy organization feels good when others hit their goals.
When I meet with a large group, I make a point to recognize and compliment the successful directors on their specific results. I notice in a healthy organization everybody claps and is excited for the person recognized. If it’s unhealthy, the audience will half-heartedly applaud if the boss is clapping, but they possibly are thinking, “Well, let me tell you what I did better than that person. Or let that person try to run my department.” I always point out to the audience that healthy organizations feel good about the success of others.
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Beyond the organization, I believe that a genuine willingness to celebrate other people’s wins is a way to judge our own emotional health and maturity. It’s wonderful to be happy in our own success, but that happiness can be multiplied and experienced many times over by sharing it with others when they succeed as well.
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